Married women dating married
Finally, we had men in their sixties ask the questions, and that solved the problem.
The responses they elicited were generally straightforward.
Our original intent was to determine how men at different ages reacted to single women they met at social gatherings.
We started by asking the men about their lives before they met their future wives.
Even among men who are positively inclined toward marriage and are from identical educational and socioeconomic backgrounds, 20 percent will reach the age of commitment a year or more before our estimates, while another 20 percent will only consider marriage as a real option two to four years later.
So if you’re dating a man much younger than the commitment age, the chance he’ll commit is relatively small.
The single men apparently did not feel an obligation to give these interviewers macho or politically correct answers. The first was that there is an age when a man is ready to marry-the Age of Commitment.
The age varies from man to man, but there are patterns that are easily identified: Still, there is no one-to-one correlation.
The second time we tried teams composed of men and women, but that produced mainly politically correct answers, which we also questioned.
There’s one exception to this rule: Men and women who are seriously committed couples while still in school often get married shortly after they finish their formal education.